Hi,
Don’t listen to anyone who says it’s not possible. Thousands – probably millions – of couples have got back together after a split, and stayed together.
As to how you do it, well, there are so many ways and it all depends on what kind of person you are, and your ex is, the nature of your relationship and what you both want to happen.
The main points seem to be
1. Never plead, or beg, your ex to return. This would put you in a position of weakness, where you’re a person nobody needs.
2. Accept for the moment that the split has happened, give your ex some space (which he will welcome most likely), and think long, or at least intermediate, term. Plan for getting your ex back over a period of anything up to three or four months, if necessary.
3. Be prepared to accept the blame (even if it’s not entirely your fault). Tell friends that it’s your fault and you don’t blame him for leaving, but that you screwed up badly and you want him back. Word will get back to him indirectly, and that can only be a good thing.
4. Maintain your composure and act as if you’re quite prepared to move on from the relationship if need be. Your ex will probably be impressed with your strength of character, and that alone will make you more desirable to him.
5. Write your ex a letter. Even if you normally don’t write letters. Don’t text or send an email. Write a proper letter on expensive (looking) writing paper. Say you accept the breakup and that you’re sorry for your part in it. Important – express the hope that you can both remain friends. Then say you propose not to contact him again for a month (unless there’s any special reason, e.g. children, mutual business affairs, why you have to) but after that you may just write as a friend. That will take the pressure off him, and he will probably be looking forward to you contacting him again.
That should be a good start. There is a free letter template at the resource given.
You can’t.
It wont work out in the end anyway, why bother?
The fact that you ended your relationship means that you arent right for one another.
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not a lot of info but…
ok so what you do is talk to him more.
go out together as ‘friends’.
talk
become good friends
try asking him out
tell him how you feel
get together <3
dont wait for things to happen, make them happen
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You Dont
Face It Hun Hes Gone Forever
But Im Still Here =)
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I need to know more info on why yall broke up etc?
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Exactly like the first guy said. You don’t. He is your ex for a reason. If you could not work it out with him while you are together, and it ends, then let it go. Move on.
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maybe you can get him back, this site lists some ways http://canvasoflove.blogspot.com
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Hi,
Don’t listen to anyone who says it’s not possible. Thousands – probably millions – of couples have got back together after a split, and stayed together.
As to how you do it, well, there are so many ways and it all depends on what kind of person you are, and your ex is, the nature of your relationship and what you both want to happen.
The main points seem to be
1. Never plead, or beg, your ex to return. This would put you in a position of weakness, where you’re a person nobody needs.
2. Accept for the moment that the split has happened, give your ex some space (which he will welcome most likely), and think long, or at least intermediate, term. Plan for getting your ex back over a period of anything up to three or four months, if necessary.
3. Be prepared to accept the blame (even if it’s not entirely your fault). Tell friends that it’s your fault and you don’t blame him for leaving, but that you screwed up badly and you want him back. Word will get back to him indirectly, and that can only be a good thing.
4. Maintain your composure and act as if you’re quite prepared to move on from the relationship if need be. Your ex will probably be impressed with your strength of character, and that alone will make you more desirable to him.
5. Write your ex a letter. Even if you normally don’t write letters. Don’t text or send an email. Write a proper letter on expensive (looking) writing paper. Say you accept the breakup and that you’re sorry for your part in it. Important – express the hope that you can both remain friends. Then say you propose not to contact him again for a month (unless there’s any special reason, e.g. children, mutual business affairs, why you have to) but after that you may just write as a friend. That will take the pressure off him, and he will probably be looking forward to you contacting him again.
That should be a good start. There is a free letter template at the resource given.
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http://www.getbacktogetherforever.com