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Long story short, I broke up with him,dated someone else for a couple months(guy ended up moving away) and seeing as i was w/ someone else it made me realize how GOOD my ex was. I ended up downgrading in guys if you get what I mean… I want to get back w/ my ex bf but he’s upset about me being w/ the other guy(totally understandable)
I know I’m in the wrong here and he probably doesn’t deserve someone like me who has relationship issues but I really fear of being alone and i miss him. How can I get him back??
TRY.
Or you’ll always wonder what would have happened if you had.
People who say you don’t deserve him… well, nobody’s perfect and I’m sure as good as this guy might be, I’m sure he was with other girls before he was with you and you accepted that.
Maybe you can ask him if given time, would he consider going back with you? That you want him back?
And of course, looks MATTER. Look your best, make him want you back. Whatever he says, live your life like you’re happy with or without him and have all your stuff together, don’t lose hope on getting him back but don’t count on it either (or you’ll be disappointed). Know that everything works out for the best, if he doesn’t come back to you, pray/hope that there’s a better guy out there.
I know that right now I just broke things off with someone and I really wish I hadn’t. :/ He wasn’t right for me, and there are better guys out there, not just in terms of character and face and body, but he was the commited type and now, ironically, I remember the good stuff of the relationship whereas before I just saw the negative. Now, it’s complicated, but things are definitely over and he’s moved on, even looking at other girls in front of me! It hurts, but then I think to myself… we really had no chemistry anyway. It’s not fair to use him like that. Plus, he needs a lot of love. (long story)
still… if anything, get a counselor. i heard those help in those relationship issues. Tho honestly, I think EVERYONE, even you ex must have relationship issues so say to yourself. "I’m no less than anyone else."
I know how you feel, I never realized how lonely I felt before. Hardly any friends, but my own choice. Then, he basically becamse my bestie and now… it’s like, i learned a lot about myself with him, tho he was pretty arrogant and condescending.
Not that he was all bad but..yeah
Good luck!
I want my ex back. Shes gota new guy… likely a rebound. Im not gunna beg cuz it doesnt work with her. The nice guy thing does not work! Ladies… HELP!
You could let the new guy beat the s**t out of you for moving in on his territory. I know I would.
is it true that men never go back to women if the women tell them, please don’t leave I love you. All advise says don’t call my ex and I am wondering if that’s really it. Just DON’T call him! I love him but I am supposed to just NOT love him. I want to speak to him more than ever but advise i’ve had is to not show him I love him!!
It seems a stupid world to live in if we can’t be honest about how we feel, because this is seen as needyness.
So nobody wants to be needed?
I want to be needed.
Is there nothing I can truly do apart from IGNORE my ex to get him back? I just so much want to tell him- babe, you’re really mean & you’re not perfect. But I love you just as you are ……………..
I shouldn’t????????????????
don’t ignore or you’ll never score
My ex and I broke up a year ago.
We’ve stayed in contact since then but its been up and down.
Hes been with someone else for a while now, about 10 months. He got with her 3 weeks after it finished with us, he didn’t know her when we broke up. So I guess it was a rebound that stuck?
We talk regularly and we both initiate contact equally.
I’ve realised I’m still in love with him and want to get back together.
Without giving any more information, how do you think I could go about getting him back?
And please don’t say "move on" because thats not what I’m asking.
thanks 
Well, since it’s been a year, and you’re both talking equally, there is only one thing to do. Tell him that you still love him and want to be with him. If he says he does not want to break up w/ his girlfriend then you need to stop talking to him. It will only hurt you to be stuck on him! On the other hand, if he loves you and wants to still be with you he will dump her and be with you!!! Just don’t stick around if he says he wants to stay with his current gf.
I want to do something really sweet for my ex girlfriend, to let her know that I really care.
Roses and chocolate is pretty old, do you guys and gals have any suggestions?
Oh I thought you wanted revenge
My ex and I were together for close to six years and recently split because a mutual friend got involved and started spreading lies. Doubt built in my head and eventually built in his, he ended the relationship and soon after, we found out what happened. My ex decided to stick to the decision because he saw our upcoming school year possibly breaking us apart due to busy schedules; his final year + thesis and me beginning graduate school.
After everything that has happened, he said he still wants to remain friends. We never fought- things were almost perfect until this happened! Because of the drama, he said he loves me but is not in love with me… even though it wasn’t my fault. He needed to block everything away and unfortunately, I was included. He told me come November/December, if we didn’t find someone new and our schedules proved we weren’t too busy for one another, and he feel back in love with me, there’s a chance of picking back up where we left off. I love the guy and don’t want to nor do I have intentions of moving on- he is my soul mate and I’m not settling. I know this for a fact!
Here is the tricky part. There is a girl lingering around in the background who is working way too hard to get in his pants and in a relationship.. and while I am never quick to judge, I do not care for her and fear he is going to get hurt. When her facebook was public, she was rude and always knocking people down, she hooked up with one of his fraternity brothers, tried hooking up with a second but he didn’t want anything to do with her and now she moved on to my ex, and lastly- she admitted to having a std. These few things make me disgusted and make me wonder what he possibly sees in her? On top of that, she is always the poor helpless victim of guys feeling her up. Don’t you think with her past, obviously she is doing something to ask for it. For example, you don’t sleep in the same bed with a guy, have sex and share with the world he felt you up during your sleep. I mean, I’m sure he felt you up an hour or so before that so whats the difference? And also, you tell everyone another brother felt you up when you were drunk, you knew what was going on, yet why did you keep returning back to his room 3-5 times that night?
A. I love him, B. I dont want to see him get hurt…. and C. Of course I want us to get back together.
What do I do?
Normally I would play hard to get, forcing him to miss me and crawl back in the past. However, I can’t help but to think that’s a bad move seeing he’ll never miss me with this girl always talking to him in the background. Should I move forth with the friendship, put the sadness away and focus on all happy conversations hoping he’ll fall back in love and give it another chance? Should I move on in general, despite not wanting to?
Lastly, I told him if they were to get together- everything we had would be gone including a friendship. Normally I’m not like that but knowing she had or may have another std disgusts me and there is no way I’ll be able to look at him the same. He deserves so much better, despite only being apart for 2 months away from me. I would def. say she is a rebound and a terrible one.
Im in a similar situation.
I think the main thing to realise is what he told you- that he loves you but isn’t in love with you. If that’s the case, either he is in shock or he didn’t love you strongly enough in the first place.
You don’t fall out of love that easily with someone who is your soulmate. I think he’s making a mistake letting you go, I mean there aren’t many women in the world who will devote themselves and care for him as much as you have. If he does reject you in November/December, you will end up being the one that got away, in a few years time he’ll be out of another relationship and realise that nothing compared to what you and him had, but by then probably you’ll be with someone else.
I hope he comes to his senses by winter time. If not, then let him sleep with her, catch the s.t.d, be full of regret and you will have met a great guy who treats you the way you deserve.
I know I should be moving on, and for the most part I have as I no longer feel pain or sadness anymore from the thought of her, even with the thought that she is currently dating another guy. well 3 months ago she broke up with me (again) and i still want to be with her. we dated for 5 months when she broke up with me the first time (i pressured her into sex), and we went 6 months separated. then we got back together a second time and lasted for 7 months before we got in an argument and she ended the whole thing once again. so a month after our last break up, she has been seeing this guy. they been going out for almost a month and a half and im sure it will be ending soon as he is leaving for college in a week and they will be 5 hours apart.
I have not talked to my ex in about 2 months, but i still love this girl dearly. all together i have only known her for about a year and 8 months, and we only been dating for a year when you put together the time we were actually together. the reason i want to be with her is because i know who she truly is, and i know underneath all the emotional problems she has been going through is that beautiful girl i cared so much for. i dont want to give up on her. i mean i wont exactly try to ruin the relationship she is in now, but i want to be together with this girl again. i want to love her again and i want to wait for her. ive gone through too many brief flings, and i dont want to do that anymore. i want to be with the girl who has made me felt like a human being, and not just some guy. i love this girl, and id do anything to get her back. what can i do?
An ex is an ex for a reason. Don’t do it yo. Move on.
I have recently just split up with my girlfriend that I had been going out with for just over 2 years, it was quite a shock as she just dumped totally out of the blue without any warning, I thought things were great between us, obviously I was wrong.
I would love to get my ex girlfriend back but not sure how to go about it, if anyone has any suggestions I would love to hear them.
Thanks in advance!
James
Well James I’m sorry to hear that. Break ups are never easy, especially when they’re out of the blue like that. There are a couple of things that I’ve learned you can do to get your ex back if that’s really what you want.
First of all you should let your ex calm down. Instead of desperately trying to soothe her temper, let time do the work for you. Don’t contact your ex girlfriend for a couple of weeks. This will give her room to calm down and think logically instead of only emotionally. You and your ex will be able to reflect back to the events that led to the breakup and maybe even come up with solutions.
Don’t let your ex girlfriend see you depressed and grubby looking, as this will show her a weak side which is unattractive. As you allow your ex to cool down, do whatever it takes to look good and feel good about yourself. i.e. get a hair cut/keep yourself groomed, go for a run, or buy yourself a new outfit. Show her you’re still that confident hottie she fell for in the first place. This will not go unnoticed by your ex who might just start regretting his/her decision of breaking up with you.
To further calm down frayed nerves, write a SMS, email or a good old letter to your ex. This will allow you to express your feelings without any angry interruptions and will also allow your cooled-down ex to read your thoughts in a more controlled manner. Writing will help you bare your soul and your ex will get to know your true feelings without any emotional outbursts. Apologize if you feel that you have wronged your ex in any way.
These tips are sure to get your ex back into talking mode and once you two get talking, then it is just a matter of time before you both decide to get back into your lost relationship.
I really hope this helps.
I’m trying to get back with my ex and I was wondering if there are any tips or ideas that can help me get her back? Or any ideas that can make her miss me?
Thanks for your ideas/tips!!
Hi,
I can think of a couple of good things you can do to get her back and I think you can do a couple of them right now. first off don’t keep calling her or email her.
As far as knowing exactlly what to do to get her back I think you can try a program that has worked for me a countless other men and woman find their love of their life again.
I have sent a link to the site and this should help you, good luck!!!
okay so my ex girlfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago because she says im like a big brother to her. but i love her soo much and i cant get her out of my head, so like she said we could still be friends, so i tried txting her a few times, she txted bak. but then she just completely stopped texting me when i text her, and i say(when she wouldnt txt me) i texted her alot but just like hi. but then one night she texted cryin about something i asked y but no answer. and now like after 2 weeks of her not answering my texts i wanted to know if im like annoying her and if i can still get her back, please help :’(
You have not lost them for good. I was in a similar situation and ended up reading a lot of books on the subject of getting your ex back.
The books told me to do things that did not seem rational but they worked. I got my ex back after we were broken up for four months.
There is a blog at http://www.sodahead.com/living/how-to-get-your-ex-back—10-mistakes-that-you-should-not-make/blog-365563/ if you want to check it out. You will not believe how well the info will help you.