Archive for December, 2009
my dads side of the family had a big misunderstanding with him. i invitied him to my grandmothers house and my uncle " saw" him touch me inappropriately… he was tickeling me… so yea he tried to avoide me for a month after that day happened and then i call him and he just breaks up with me because he said when all of that happened and that they didnt believe him when he said he didnt touch me that it changed his mind about me and that he couldnt look at me the same way anymore. its been 3 months after the break up. we are best friends and i just want to be with him again.
Remember why he is an EX
He is an EX for a reason
Im 16 and im pregnant with my ex boyfriends kid. He dumped me and he said he dosent know if he wants to be there. I know he cares ive just went kinda crazy on him. Any advice on how to get him to come back?
thanks for the help 
also what should i say to him?
guys?
he didnt ditch me cause im pregnant.
i found out i was pregnant after we broke up.
i just want to know the steps i should take to get him back.
Don’t guilt him into it but if he’s actually a decent guy at all he’ll be there and be more careful next time 
okay, well this is what happened, me and my ex were going out for about 2 months. but then he started to not come around as much as he used to which pissed me off so i broke up with him a week after his birthday :p and now i feel really bad and it feels like i just really need him back. and we have all of the same friends, and they have been talkin to him bout getting back with me. so can anyone help me!?!?!
Hi Blondy,
This may be hard to do, but I suggest you write him a letter and in it apologise for ending the relationship. Say you acted on impulse because he wasn’t coming to see you so often, and that you’d like to meet up with him. Suggest a time and place, but leave it open for him to amend the details if he can’t make it there and then.
Don’t be afraid of swallowing your pride. What do you want more – to be proud and lonely, or only slightly less proud and back with your ex?
One important point – write a letter. Don’t send a text or an email. Write on good quality writing paper. If you have trouble with this, there’s a free letter template in the resource given.
And when you see him – smile. He’ll probably smile back.
I want to go out with my ex-girlfriend again. She wasn’t stolen but I need advice on how to get her back.
Hi Ryan…
This is funny, because my name is also Ryan… Nice to meet you.
You didn’t provide any details… It’s going to be very hard for me to answer your question (and this will make this answer really long – please, make sure you read everything, it will help you a lot). But, there are two main reasons why relationships come to an end:
1. The first scenario has to do with something really wrong that you or your ex did (like cheating for instance). If you’ve cheated on your ex or you did something that really upset them, you need to learn how to make an effective apology, otherwise, your ex will never be able to forgive you fully (and, no, saying "I’m sorry" it’s not enough). They need to know that you really understand how bad they felt when it happened. When you do that, avoid saying things like "it was nothing". This will only demonstrate that you are not congruent with what they feel. But, if you’re serious about getting your ex back, I’m going to teach you how to make a deep apology that will save your relationship.
2. The second scenario has to do with a loss of attraction. What this means is that your ex is not that into you anymore. Does any of the following sound familiar…? "I’m not sure I want this anymore. I feel that I should meet more people and try different things before I settle down. I feel like I’m not ready yet to commit to someone. It’s not you… it’s me…" It’s funny to hear variations of this in almost every situation. But the core reason is the same: your ex does not feel attracted to you anymore. Understand that, at the beginning of your relationship, your ex wasn’t attracted to you by chance. But as the relationship progressed, you began to lose some, most or all of the attractive traits. If you want your ex back, you need to learn about this gender-specific traits that can make you attractive and really become an attractive person again.
There is so much to be said about this… but let me tell you a little story (I bet you’ve been there too):
I’m an ok looking and nice guy, but, when I was in high school, I just couldn’t understand how the biggest jerks in my classroom were ending up with the most beautiful girls all the time… Were they better looking than me? Not really… at least, not all of them… Did they behave nicer than I did? Of, course not! They were treating the girls like crap, busting their balls all the time! They were making fun of them and the jokes were really nasty almost all the time! But still, somehow, they were getting attention from all the girls! What the hell was happening there?!…
…Am I saying that you have to become a jerk to get your ex girlfriend back? Hell no! You can still be yourself (probably a very nice person) and attract women (and your ex girlfriend too) like crazy. Actually, you can do way better than a jerk, because you can be nice and adapable and they simply can’t…
What I do say is that you can learn something from these high scool experiences with jerks…
#1. Leadership
#2. Self-Assurance
#3. Decisiveness
#4. Self-Control
These are the traits that attract women like crazy, and jerks are sometimes displaying them by mistake, with their arrogance and nasty jokes.
These are but a few of the main traits you absolutely *must* have in order to maintain a healthy "male/female polarity".
Now, don’t you think that you can do way better by simply learning how to be a man?
In many cases, women will tolerate a lot of crap from their partners without ever thinking of leaving the relationship… as long as they feel one primary emotion… and that’s called ATTRACTION.
Men usually tend to lose their masculine traits and their personality by letting their girlfriends lead the relationship… This way, they let the "male/female polarity" shift… and here’s what usually happens:
1. You tend to do only what she wants you to do, even if that’s not exactly what you want.
2. You change your preferences because she likes a certain music style, food, clothing, hairstyle etc…
3. You don’t always have plan in mind (i.e. when she asks you where you want to go out, you’re out of ideas and you let her chose… again).
Seems difficult? Well, women love a "man with a plan" and if you’re not willing to become one, you’ll face this issue over and over again.
You need to become that mysterious guy you used to be when you two first met. Become a challenge! Tell her you want to go out with her in a very unusual place… a place you’ve never been before with her…
But, first step you need to make is to give her some space… Give her the chance to miss you a little bit… to realize your value. Human beings only realize the true value of something when it’s gone… Give her a taste of your real value…
There are many ways to make her feel attracted to you again but, unfortunately, I can’t make this any longer. But, for now, if nothing else, at least do this!
If you’ve found this interesting, you can read more here:
http://www.quicklygetherback.com
I encourage you to do this because a lot of guys are able to get back with their girls in no time, every day, because of this information they get.
Good luck,
Ryan
My ex-boyfriend took my car and refused to bring it back. His last known address is my house and he got fired, so I can’t send him a certified letter like the police department told me to. I’m not sure what else I can do – maybe someone else in Texas can help me? Please?
The police said that its not stolen because he used to live with me.
The car and insurance are both in my name only. He has no family anywhere near here (only lived here for about a year). We’re definitely not common-law married.
If the vehicle is in your name only – then you should be able to report it stolen
Just don’t tell them you used to live together – tell them you and he broke up and he took off with your vehicle.
Her new boyfriend lost his fortune (long story) & is tired of her. So she started coming out here (family ranch) after the money loss & the resulting move to cheaper quarters. She started coming out here & saying, this is my family, spending Mother’s Day with my husband’s mom & calling her Mom at least once in every sentence. Everyone I know has separate holidays after the parents remarry. His daughters are in their 30s. I can’t stand to go to these things. Of course, I know I should go & be gracious to the scheming females in his family – his daughters really want him to reconcile with their Mom. Even his Mother hopes he will.
I don’t think he should go to social events with his ex – I’d hope he would celebrate with his daughters on a separate day, with his wife (me.) And when they plan a nice get together for everyone at a restaurant, I would want it to be a different day. He goes to several get togethers at restaurants with his Mother, his ex and his daughters & it’s his complete family from the past. It would seem funny to could the times she calls her ex-mother-in-law Mom. Sometimes twice in one sentence. aaahhh It’s so obvious & unfair & I end up looking like the shrew.
We’re in our 50s & 60s & she doesn’t work. Falling back into this family is obviously her best option… I think most people celebrate holidays with their divorced and remarried parents on separate days so that everyone is comfortable.
I end up looking whiny when I relate to my husband that his professional singing daughter took a microphone & went up to each person (about 15) and sang a line or two. When she came to me – the last one – she turned her back and went over to the piano to finish. My throat was stinging from trying not to cry & sitting there with a fake Merry Christmas smile. I end up wondering who are these people & why am I here on Christmas?
I sure hope you have even opinions… any ideas. Thank you – I’m sorry this was so long!
I hear your situation and is scares the crap out of me.
My hubby’s ex will probably do this as she gets older. She and he are both about 50. I am in my 30s. His adult daughters can’t stand me and I ALSO can’t say anything anymore because I look like the bad guy.
I don’t know what to do. I’m sorry that you have had to put up with this. Not it isn’t fair and it isn’t right that your marriage is suffering because of his baggage. It sounds like you’ve been married quite a while. Me? Only a couple of months, but he was married for 25 years before he met me. I don’t think it will ever stop. Hearing a situation like yours might scare me into ending it.
I’m so very sorry. You deserve better.
I need a song that talks something about this…An ex of mine from like 4 years ago recently got in contact with me he came to see me and i felt like wow! He told me things i know are true and i went through them to in this time we have not seen each other etc..
Hope you guys can help!
PS: Style eaither R&B or reggeaton No rock or heavy rap
Lotz of Thanks Yous
♥ (: ♥
HMMM
BEYONCE- smash into you AND BEYONCE-hello
reunited and it feels so good idk who sings that
GOOD LUCK HUN!=)
my bestfriend recently got a new boyfriend and now her ex wants her back. she begged him for months to take her back and he kept going out and getting with other girls. now shes moved on and happy he wants her.
now that im starting to move on my ex is doing the same thing .
why is it that guys are like this
Cause human beings always want what we can’t have. Also you take for granted what you’ve got and when the time comes, it seems you never miss what you had till it’s gone.
xx
She broke up with me about a week ago. I’m thinking about trying to get back with her again on Christmas hoping that she would think it was sweet and possibly say yes. How can I do this without sounding desperate or anything? All help is appreciated!
Well we broke up because she said she didn’t want to deal with a relationship or boyfriend at the time and that I was trying to be too serious. She really doesn’t want a serious relationship at all. She also said that I was "too committed to her"
More detail why did you 2 separate?
OK, dont judge me peeps, I know its unethical, yadayadayada…
My ex broke up with me from distance, It was some unbeleivably nasty and fake reasons.
I was planning on coming there, and I got my visa and everything, settled vacation time, thousands of plans etc. and he just cancelled it… No explanation, just some nasty little excuses.
I ws wondering what would be a good ways to maybe revenge him a bit?
my advice would be to stop mentioning the fact that he had no good reason. Obviously he had a reason. The most likely one being that he doesnt like you, possibly because you are the sort of person who would spend hours thinking about the best way to get revenge on someone who dumped them.
But im just speculating here.