Archive for December, 2009
A lot of people say that one of the best ways to getting your ex back is to take care of yourself and look the best you can and let him/her see how well you are doing. Well, that may be true for some, but what about the ones who once they see their ex doing so well they feel like they are better off without them so they don’t want their ex back?
For example, my boyfriend and I broke up and I’m trying to take good care of myself and look good and rebuild my confidence so he can see me and miss me, but what if when he sees me he thinks to himself "she looks really good and that means she’s better off without me so i don’t want to get back with her."
What do you do then?
You take care of yourself. Build up your confidence and self esteem and the point is to let him know you don’t need him and you have moved on in your life. Your life is better without him in it. That is the sweetest "revenge" there is. There is not a whole lot of point looking to the past. An ex is an ex for a reason. It is best to move forward and make your life better.
SHE SAYS THAT SHE HAS A BUSINESS AND WILL PUT IT THRU HER BUSINESS AND HAND IT OVER TO THE D.A"S OFFICE AND SHE CLAIMS THAT IT IS A CLASSS A FELONY HERE IN CALIFORNIA!! IN THE PAY TO THE ORDER OF: I LEFT IT BLANK!! THIS IS A PERSONAL ISSUE I DID NOT RECEIVE ANY GOODS.. ISN’T IT A CIVIL MATTER?
hmm,
With proper banks you get blacklisted and unless you pay a big fine you aren’t getting a check book to your name any more.
I would hope banks in the US have learned from their recent lesson but I am not too sure, I bet you get away with it, maybe not even a scolding as banks might not be connected.
I have a situation that i need help with. Ok, im with my ex again after two years, but during that time i had three relationships and two of them were not so good. One of the guys i dated, i fell in love with deeply, like im head over heels in love with him and he’s in love with me just like i am. We break up because he thought we were going to fast so i ask him why and he said, he was too in love with me, so i leave it like that. My ex wanted me back so i went back to him even after all the crap i dealt with him, he broke my heart in ways i couldn’t even imagine. I love my boyfriend but i love my ex even more then i do him, I want my ex back, but i don’t think he’ll take me back. I was planing to ask back out my ex after i graduate from high school, now all i want to know is, what can i do now, how can i get the love of my life back?
Hello
Winning back your ex boyfriend is a very difficult thing to do. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you do the right things, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances to win him back increase dramatically.
if you desire to get your ex back check these 3 recommended steps:
1.The first tip is to get your head straight. You need to get rid of these negative thoughts. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have to be willing to be strong.
Don’t let your emotion and of course your depression keep you down. You can’t achieve a goal, if you can’t keep your emotions in check and your mind clear. Negative thoughts are destructive behavior and you need to avoid them.
2.Don’t annoy your ex boyfriend. Boys just don’t like it when girls become obsessive about them. Especially ex boyfriends. You may want to seek comfort by hearing his voice or seeing his face, but if you really want him back, you must back off for a while. Don’t continuously make phone calls to him, email him, or go to his place or where he hangs out just to see him. It’s very important give him time to realize he may have made a mistake. He may begin to actually miss you and want you back. If you blow it, you may have a tougher time getting your ex boyfriend back.
3.Become an object of desire. If you can, it’s recommended to get some new makeup. You will also want to get some new clothes and a new hairstyle. If you’ve picked up a few pounds, start doing some exercises and eating healthy. When looking good on the outside, you’re going to start feeling better about yourself on the inside. If you will feel good on the inside you will be confident and happy. When you’re confident and happy, others will easily see it. You will become an object of desire to men, this includes your ex boyfriend.
These tips were helpful for me to get my ex boyfriend back.However, if you really want to get him back I will recommend to get good guide on how to get your ex back. There are many guides out there but most of them are crap (I tried too many of them…).
You can learn about one of the best and most popular guides on how to get your ex boyfriend back in this blog:
http://www.backwithextips.com/get-him-back-forever-review
all the best
Just curious but I do not intend to get back with my ex boyfriend. I just want to know from other people’s point of view.
It depends on why a couple broke up. For example if a couple broke up because both needed a little bit of space, then there’s no problem with getting back together. But if a couple broke up because one of them was cheating then you shouldn’t.
Sometimes getting back together doesn’t really work for some people, but sometimes it really does work. Hope this helps! 
We had been going out for a little over a month and everything had been going great and then about a week ago she says she needs to talk to me and she breaks up with me. She said she thought I was trying to be in too serious of a relationship and I was "too committed to her." I didn’t know that was possible but apparently it is. She also said she doesn’t want a boyfriend or to be in a relationship right now. I still have feelings for her and I would like to get back together with her but I’m not sure how I should go about doing it. I’d thought about waiting until Christmas day to ask her out again which is a couple weeks away but I don’t know if that’s too soon or if that will even work at all. Please help! I really really care about this girl and I’d like to be more than friends with her again but I’m not sure how to go about it.
P.S. I’m not sure if this helps but we ended on good terms neither of us were mad at each other.
Hi
Winning back your ex girlfriend is not easy at all. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you do the right things, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances to win her back increase dramatically.
Here are few steps that helped me to get my ex girlfriend back:
Don’t Ask Your Ex Girlfriend To Get Back Together
You should never ask her to get back together. Why? Simple, because her answer will be NO!
You’re only shot at getting her back is to follow the right steps that will make her ask you to get back together. Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better.
But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get your ex girlfriend attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction.
So don’t ignore her texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can’t even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way.
You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show her that your happiness isn’t dependent on being with her.
Don’t Be Jealous
Listen to me …SHE IS GONNA DATE SOMEONE ELSE. Let that sink in good. And not only is she gonna date someone else, it will probably be someone you know, maybe even one of your friends. Tough to swallow I know. It’s ok if it bothers you, but don’t let it show and don’t call her out on it. Remember, you are not together anymore, and you don’t have any right to tell her what to do.
If you do want to win her back, then you just have to weigh the decision.
Be Flexible
Do not be that stereotypical angry ex. Do not throw out their stuff or demand for them to come pick up their stuff right now. Rather be flexible, easy-going and understanding. A person who doesn’t take things too seriously is an attractive quality in itself. It may inspire your ex girlfriend to start communicating with you again faster then you might think.
These tips were helpful for me to get my ex girlfriend back. Anyhow, if you really want to get her back I will recommend to get good guide on how to get your ex back. There are many guides out there but most of them are crap (I tried too many of them…).
You can learn about the best and most popular guide on how to get your ex girlfriend back that was very helpful for me in this article:
http://www.backwithextips.com/magic-of-making-up-review
all the best
cut along story short we were together for 2 and a half years..and she would always say she loves me etc…and even talked of a family etc…when she split from me she said i know it sounds sad jeff but i can see myself marrying you when im older….and she even said to one of her best mates that when she is ready to settle Down i would be the one she wants…im 20 she is 18 im her first love..and relationship…does anybody no wats going on?
She’s scared to settle down. She is only 18, & wants to experience life before marriage. She doesn’t want to regret anything later down the line or blame you for her lack of experiences in life. I wouldn’t put my whole life on hold for her though. Have your own experiences, & if life brings you two back together, then it was meant to be.
How soon after he broke up with you did you start to date someone else? and How soon did your ex try to come back? What did he say?
Yes, he came back. I started to date someone else about 6 months later. He realized the grass was not greener, and also started realizing that he could lose me forever when I referred to him as my "friend" during a phone conversation.
The most funny or creative answers win 10 points;)
I told his boss that he was chasing after me (I was his employee) and he got fired. He deserved it, though.
U break up with ur ex. after some months u r with someone new. Why would u miss ur ex boyfriend when u broke up and usually how long does it take to start missing ur ex?
Does it happen Specially, if ur Ex truely loved and u knew it that it was unconditional. but at that time u thought u were not attracted to ur Ex.
the good old saying, you miss someone when they are not around. Sometimes even when you don’t love someone, the thought of never seeing that person who once use to be in your life or once made you happy is still the reason why you listen to sappy songs or stay up late at night wondering what he’s up to, or just dying to see him again in some sorta of unguilty way.
You can be with a new person, but it certaintly does not take away how much you miss someone if you truly once love that person, no matter how hard the breakup was, or the reasons it was that it didn’t work out.
You tend to bring good memories in, and let the bad ones go, b/c the bad memories don’t matter once that person is gone, it’s good ones that keep you missing them.
If you love that person, you would be missing them even before they are out of your life, if you don’t love that person, you would start to miss them when you remember all the good moments you had with them.
If you despise that person, then you really wouldn’t miss them at all, b/c you should be glad they are gone.
If you love your ex and hate your ex, you would miss them after about 2 weeks
Hi,
Don’t listen to anyone who says it’s not possible. Thousands – probably millions – of couples have got back together after a split, and stayed together.
As to how you do it, well, there are so many ways and it all depends on what kind of person you are, and your ex is, the nature of your relationship and what you both want to happen.
The main points seem to be
1. Never plead, or beg, your ex to return. This would put you in a position of weakness, where you’re a person nobody needs.
2. Accept for the moment that the split has happened, give your ex some space (which he will welcome most likely), and think long, or at least intermediate, term. Plan for getting your ex back over a period of anything up to three or four months, if necessary.
3. Be prepared to accept the blame (even if it’s not entirely your fault). Tell friends that it’s your fault and you don’t blame him for leaving, but that you screwed up badly and you want him back. Word will get back to him indirectly, and that can only be a good thing.
4. Maintain your composure and act as if you’re quite prepared to move on from the relationship if need be. Your ex will probably be impressed with your strength of character, and that alone will make you more desirable to him.
5. Write your ex a letter. Even if you normally don’t write letters. Don’t text or send an email. Write a proper letter on expensive (looking) writing paper. Say you accept the breakup and that you’re sorry for your part in it. Important – express the hope that you can both remain friends. Then say you propose not to contact him again for a month (unless there’s any special reason, e.g. children, mutual business affairs, why you have to) but after that you may just write as a friend. That will take the pressure off him, and he will probably be looking forward to you contacting him again.
That should be a good start. There is a free letter template at the resource given.