Archive for November, 2009
After you’ve done the breaking up, of course
try to be hella good friends
call every night
be hella sweet
remind me of all the good times
try to hang a lot
little things that make a difference
Am I the only one who thinks getting back with an ex is a bad idea? I mean if you are not strong enough to get through what ever, than you won’t be strong enough to get through it the next time it comes up.
I agree with to some extent. If a couple breaks up, and the tries to get back together without having had some kind of change in their lives, then it seems like a rather foolish move to get back together. You can’t expect get different results without doing something differently.
However, if you and your ex have changed significantly since your breakup it has the potential to work. A good example might be someone you dated in high school, broke up with, and then you decide to contact them several years later after you’ve both finished college. The maturity level of someone in high school vs. someone who has finish college is huge, hopefully, so getting back together can actually work out better than just meeting someone new.
If there really have been changes in your life that would allow you to have a more mature and trustworthy relationship then it can definitely work out. In my experience, it can actually work out better. I met my gf on the internet as a young kid, and we sort of "dated" for several years, but eventually drifted apart because long distance relationships are hard, especially for teenagers. 8 Years later, I wrote her a letter, she wrote me back, and eventually we got back together. We’re both older and more mature now, so the relationship is working out great and I will be asking her to marry me soon. It’s actually helped our relationship a lot, being apart and then getting back together. We always tell each other that we’re never making the same mistake again (of letting each other go). Being given a second chance makes me appreciate her that much more, and I’m not letting her go this time around.
dont know to you.. it depends if ul make the first move or he’ll make the first move..it is if he really loves you and wants you back badly
I broke up with my ex 8 months ago. I am just curious if there are some ways or things or anything that I can do to get her back. Maybe not right away but maybe some time down the road. I still love her and she is seeing someone else. I will take any and all suggestions. HELP!
The odds are against it, but if you can show her that she’ll be happier with you than the new boyfriend you’ll have a good chance. Being thoughtful will go a long way toward showing her that. Even if it seems hopeless, don’t give up.
If it appears she’s moved on, still send her a card you wrote just wishing her a great week. But don’t look as if you have any expectations. Your thoughtfulness might really impress her.
If you spent your relationship rarely doing thoughtful things, or you only did them in the beginning, she’ll probably doubt the things you do now. Just be patient, and keep up your efforts. Don’t appear frustrated or angry. Do the thoughtful things because it feels good to make her happy, not because you’re working toward a goal.
okay, so my ex boyfriend and me have been going out on and off for about a year and a half. the first part of our relationship lasted 5 months. i took a "break" and went out with someone else. he went out with my "friend". and then i told him i still had feelings for him. so he broke up with her for me. and i broke up with my boyfriend. then during this summer he wanted a break and he went out with her as a hook up for warped tour. she told my best friend that she just wanted him to go with her so she could makeout with somebody, she was using him. then at the end he tried to get me back and i told him not till school. and then when school got in we were a thing. then he told me he wanted a break. he wanted to go out later. now he’s flirting and texting her constantly after she promised me not to mess with him. i kinda want him back or at least not drift too far. he shows signs of liking me and then sometimes not. he wants to go back out later..but right now he’s treating me like crap. but we’ve been on and off like this for awhile. WHAT SHOULD I DO! D:
I think you’re making a mistake a lot of girls make when patching things with their ex. I’ll explain
First of all you’re not at fault here but you have to realize that guys brains work a lot differently than girls. His actions may not make sense to you but they can be explained and when you understand them you’ll be able to deal with this a lot better. You should watch this video, it explains it a bit better than me (whether you want to get back WITH him or AT him):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V6CsyjK1toY
So in other words you need to know:
- What exactly goes on inside a man’s mind (not only your ex)
- How you can push his emotional buttons so he comes crawling back to you
- Specifically how to make him commit to you after you get him back
Now whether you’ll want to deal with him after or not, and what you want him to commit to, is entirely up to you. The key is to get the control back in your hands.
Does that make sense to you? It’s hard to understand at first unless you’ve dealt with it before already
My boyfriend keeps trying to add his ex girlfriend on msn, bebo, facebook etc.
But when she accepts, I always delete her, I can’t stand that he still wants something to do with her, is this wrong? And how would you feel if your partner kept adding their ex even if you delete them? :/
Yeah, its wrong… My wife has several of her ex’s on Facebook. What’s the big deal?
They were together, the decided that for whatever reason they weren’t a good fit… and they moved on. If they want to keep in touch, then keep in touch. I keep in touch with several of my ex’s also.
But the bottome line… they are all EX’s. They tried it, it didn’t work… what else is there to worry about?
And for the record… if my partner kept getting into my business and deleting things that I added… I’d be finding a new partner.
My ex left me about a month ago and i can’t move on. We broke up because she felt smothered. I still love her and am willing to do anything to get her back. I tried to talk to her about it but we ended up foghting so I figured a love letter was a good idea. Any other suggestions are welcome.
Here is a great website on how to get your ex back. Check it out if you want to:
http://magicofgetloveback.blogspot.com/
is it possible to get back together with ur ex and to make the relationship better.i am 22 my ex is 29. we had issues in the past. but ever relationship does. i met a guy in the summer he’s 32 but i dont think that relationship will work because he maybe going to florida in the spring that could be hard. shall i give my ex another try? he’s said he was thinking of getting back together.
date someone ur own age
How can I get my ex boyfriend back
Hello
Winning back your ex boyfriend is not easy at all. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you take the right steps, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances increase dramatically.
if you desire to get your ex back try following these steps:
1.one of the most important things is to get your head straight. You need to remove the negative thoughts. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have to be willing to be strong.
Don’t let your emotion and especially depression keep you down. You can’t get your goal, if you can’t keep your emotions in check and your mind clear. Bad thoughts are destructive behavior and you need to avoid them.
2.Don’t annoy your ex boyfriend. Guys just don’t like it when girls become obsessive about them. Especially ex boyfriends. You may want to relax by hearing his voice or seeing his face, but if you really want him back, you must back off for a while. Don’t continuously him, [spin]text message him, send emails to him, or go to his place or where he hangs out just to see him. It’s very important give him time to realize he may have made a mistake. He may begin to actually miss you and want you back. If you blow it, you may have a tougher time getting your lovely ex back.
3.Become an object of desire. If you can, it will be great to get some new makeup. You will also want to get some new clothes and a new hairstyle. If you’ve picked up a few pounds, start exercising and try to eat healthy foods. When on the outside, you’re going to start feeling better about yourself on the inside. If you will feel good on the inside you will be confident and happy. When you’re confident and happy, others will easily see it. You will become an object of desire to men, including your ex.
You can find other great tips on how to get your ex boyfriend back in this useful article:
http://www.squidoo.com/How-To-Get-Your-Ex-Boyfriend-Back-Fast
How did you get him to leave you alone and your age group please? 13-18 19-25 26-35 35<
Don’t listen to that guy above, it’s just foolish advertisement. The easiest way to get a boyfriend to stay away from you is to either keep ignoring him or completely smother him. I like to chase guys saying I want to have lots and lots of babies and get married and be together forever and ever … hey, where are you going, come back here I looooooove you!!!! That usually scares them away.
But I’d try the ignoring. Takes less energy.